Bridesmaid is the important role on a wedding; If someone who are going to be Mrs ask you to be a bridesmaid (or maid of honor), it supposed to be a gesture of love, and she values your relationship. But there are still some girls who don’t want to be bridesmaids on the wedding, and why? Money and time, a lot of money and time.
First, Money, it’s expensive to be a bridesmaid (gifts, bridesmaid dresses, shoes, make hair and other cost), there is a research said it will up to $1000, let’s see the details:
- Engagement gift = $50
- Shower gift = $50
- Wedding gift = $50
- Dress = $150 It’s expensive to get a dress you will only wear once and may not even look good on you for some brides’ choices are pretty awful. Get cheap wedding bridesmaid dresses at kissprom.co.uk now.
- Alterations = $50
- Shoes = $75
- Lingerie = $50
- Hair, makeup, nails = $100
- Shower contribution (decorations, favors, food) = $50
- Bachelorette party contribution (taxis, drinks, entertainment) = $60
And if the location is not local, there will be more charge for travelling.
Second, Time, Wedding planning is like slow torture and you are emotional support, triage, and you need to always remember, it’s her day. Before and on the day of the wedding, all the bridesmaids are super busy, especially maid of honor. There are some responsibilities of bridesmaids to do in traditional. (prepare bachelorette party, bridal shower party, shopping with bride for wedding dress) and some unimaginable things (help to remove obstacle for bride when taking photos or walking down the aisle). It’s draining to be at the bride’s beck and call, music, food, table settings, and your entire job to help out. Though it is fun just being with close friends, but it maybe not way bridesmaid want to spend her day.
Third, it may annoy someone who has been bridesmaids for 3 times. There is an old saying: Three times a bridesmaid, never a bride.
Here are tips to solve the problem:
- Ask girls to be your bridesmaid in creative way, she will love it and say yes to you.
- About the bridesmaid dresses, if it is necessary brides to ask bridesmaids in same dresses, then try to pick simple dresses in a basic color than can be re-used again. Or just give little request about color, length, bridesmaids can order their dress as their favorite and they can wear it again.
- About money, keep budget into mind, talk first about money bridesmaid will spend and bride will spend, it will good help for bridesmaid to make decision.
- If bridesmaids don’t have plenty of time helping planning wedding and prepare bachelorette party, bridal shower party, talk first, bride can get herself involved and ask for help from family.
- It is OK for bridesmaid to say NO to bride, and bride doesn’t need to get angry, communication and solve the problem together.
